==> Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Asperger's and HFA Children
- Attempts to control the language exchange, and may leave a conversation before it is concluded.
- Creates jokes that make no sense.
- Creates own words, using them with great pleasure in social situations.
- Difficulty discriminating between relevant and irrelevant information.
- Displays a delay when answering questions.
- Displays difficulty analyzing and synthesizing information presented.
- Displays difficulty as language moves from a literal to a more abstract level.
- Displays difficulty sustaining attention and is easily distracted (e.g., one might be discussing plants, and the AS or HFA child will ask a question about another country — something said may have triggered this connection, or the child may still be in an earlier conversation).
- Displays difficulty understanding not only individual words, but conversations and material read.
- Displays difficulty with problem solving.
- Displays difficulty with volume control (i.e., either too loud or too soft).
- Does not ask for the meaning of an unknown word.
- Does not inquire about others when conversing.
- Does not make conversations reciprocal (i.e., has great difficulty with the back-and-forth aspect).
- Engages in obsessive questioning or talking in one area.
- Focuses conversations on one narrow topic – with too many details given.
- Has a large vocabulary consisting mainly of nouns and verbs.
- Has a voice pattern that is often described as robotic or as the “little professor.”
- Has difficulty absorbing, analyzing, and then responding to information.
- Has difficulty discriminating between fact and fantasy.
- Has difficulty initiating, maintaining, and ending conversations with others.
- Has difficulty maintaining the conversation topic.
- Has difficulty understanding the meaning conveyed by others when they vary their pitch, rhythm, or tone.
- Impairment in prosody (i.e., the pitch, stress, and rhythm of the voice).
- Impairment in the pragmatic use of language (i.e., the inability to use language in a social sense as a way to interact and communicate with others).
- Impairment in the processing of language (i.e., one’s ability to comprehend what has been said).
- Impairment in the semantic use of language (i.e., understanding the language being used).
- Interprets known words on a literal level (i.e., concrete thinking).
- Interrupts others.
- Is unable to make or understand jokes/teasing.
- Is unsure how to ask for help/make requests/make comments.
- Knows how to make a greeting, but has no idea how to continue the conversation (e.g., the next comment may be one that is totally irrelevant).
- Lacks interest in the topics of others.
- Makes comments that may embarrass others.
- Moves from one seemingly unrelated topic to the next.
- Once a discussion begins, it is as if there is no “stop” button (i.e., must complete a predetermined dialogue).
- Processing of information is slow and easily interrupted by any environmental stimulation (i.e., difficulty with topic maintenance), which appears as distractibility or inattentiveness.
- Rarely varies the pitch, stress, rhythm, or melody of his speech – and does not realize this can convey meaning.
- Rhythm of speech is more adult-like than child-like.
- Uses conversation to convey facts and information about special interests, rather than to convey thoughts, emotions, or feelings.
- Uses language scripts or verbal rituals in conversation, often described as “nonsense talk” by others. Scripts may be made up or taken from movies, books or television programs (e.g., uses the voice of a movie or cartoon character conversationally and is unaware that this is inappropriate). At times, the scripts are subtle and may be difficult to detect.
- difficulty finding the right words when talking, and often use placeholder words such as "um"
- difficulty putting words together into sentences, or their sentences may be simple and short and the word order may be off
- difficulty understanding what other people have said
- have a vocabulary that is below the level of other kids the same age
- leave words out of sentences when talking
- problems following directions that are spoken to them
- problems organizing their thoughts
- use certain phrases over and over again, and repeat (echo) parts or all of questions
- use tenses (past, present, future) improperly
==> Discipline for Defiant Asperger's and HFA Teens
- Answer your youngster every time he speaks. This rewards him for talking.
- Ask your youngster lots of questions.
- Describe for your youngster what she is doing, feeling and hearing in the course of the day.
- Don’t criticize grammar mistakes. Instead, just model good grammar.
- Don’t try to force your youngster to speak.
- Encourage storytelling and sharing information.
- Expand on what your youngster says (e.g., if your youngster says, “fruit” …you can say, “Oh, so you want some fruit”).
- Follow your youngster’s lead, so you are doing activities that hold his interest as you talk.
- Have your youngster play with “typical” kids whose language may be more advanced.
- Listen to your youngster. Look at her when she talks to you. Give her time to respond (it may feel like an eternity, but count to 10 before filling the silence).
- Look at family photos and talk about them.
- Make eye contact whenever you are conversing with your child (regardless of whether or not he/she is making eye contact with you).
- Plan family trips and outings. Your new experiences give you something interesting to talk about before, during, and after the outing.
- Play with your youngster one-on-one, and talk about the toys and games you are playing.
- Read books aloud. Ask a librarian for books appropriate to your youngster’s age. If your child loses interest in the text, just talk about the pictures.
- Sing to your youngster and provide them with music. Learning new songs helps your youngster learn new words, and uses memory skills, listening skills, and expression of ideas with words.
- Talk a lot to your youngster. Tell them what you are doing as you do it.
- Use gestures along with words.
- When talking to your child, frequently vary the tempo, pitch, loudness, tonality, stress emphasis, and rhythm patterns of your voice.
Question: Mark, thanks for the very comprehensive article. I work a lot with HFA adults, and I have yet to find a way to get speech therapy for them. Most speech therapists are mystified by adult autism, it seems. Any suggestions?
Answer: The best approach for these adults is to simply focus on the social aspects of communication (i.e., how to use language in a way that results in a desirable connection for both parties involved in the verbal exchange).
More resources for parents of children and teens with Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism:
==> Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Asperger's and HFA Children
==> Discipline for Defiant Asperger's and HFA Teens
==> Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management
==> Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism
==> Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children with Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism