Question
"Mark, I have a daughter age 6 who was diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder at age two. She received intensive therapy, 40 hours plus, per week utilizing various techniques. She is now 6. She is extremely friendly to even strangers, her IQ is 133… she is great with the exception of some behavioral problems. She is in first grade and is getting in trouble and being punished regularly for things such a marking on things she should not mark on, refusing to write. I need help."
Answer
A child with ASD has a behavior meltdown, in the school hall way. He begins to scream and hit other child. A grown-up is able to redirect the child and thus eliminate the behavior. Afterward, the team meets to discuss behavioral approaches for the future and to try to find out what led to this behavioral incident.
As the team discusses potential reasons for the behavior, they discover that the child has been the victim of intense bullying and teasing. In response, the team questions what they can do in the future to eliminate behavioral difficulties. The issue of dealing with the bullies is never discussed.
Another child has a history of behavioral challenges that were minimal during elementary school, but have intensified in middle school. The team realizes that middle school presents special challenges because of changing classes and working with multiple staff.
Accommodations are discussed that may assist the child in making numerous transitions throughout the school day. Despite these efforts, behavior incidents continue to occur. The behaviors are most likely to occur in the cafeteria or in hallways, which are incredibly noisy. It is suggested that in the future, in-school suspension be considered when there is a behavioral challenge.
This is the approach used with other child, and the school has a strong zero-tolerance policy. The child is warned repeatedly. Despite these warnings, behaviors continue and actually escalate, resulting in removal from the educational setting.
Responding to Problematic Behavior—
When a youngster with ASD engages in problematic behavior, a typical response includes trying to identify what is going on within the youngster that leads to this behavior crisis. Questions are asked, such as, “Why is he exhibiting this behavior?” “Why is she hitting others?” or “What will stop this behavior?”
All too often, this last question keeps us focused on consequence procedures that are child specific. However, simply focusing on the child as the sole source of the behavior provides limited insight into potential solutions and problems. In these situations, there are multiple issues to consider.
First, the federal law guiding special education services, the 2004 Individuals with Disabilities Education Improvement Act (IDEIA), requires special procedures and safeguards to be used when considering discipline for child with disabilities. These IDEIA provisions regarding discipline were designed to ensure that kids with disabilities maintain their ability to receive an appropriate education, even though the symptoms of their disability may include behaviors that require interventions.
These provisions consider the amount of time a child may be removed from class or school due to behavior, and require the school team to analyze whether the behavior is related to the child’s disability. This process is called manifestation determination. If the behavior is determined to be due to the disability, the law requires that a functional behavior assessment be conducted that results in an individually designed behavior support plan. This plan should use positive behavioral interventions, strategies and supports to address the behavior and teach alternative ways of responding.
When conducting a functional behavior assessment, professionals and family members examine setting events or triggers that may increase the probability of these behaviors. These setting events may not be readily apparent. For example, a child with ASD is ill, has had a difficult morning ride on the bus or has not slept. These conditions will increase the likelihood that a behavior incident will occur. For most of us, stresses in life, changes in morning routines or skipping our morning coffee may set us up to be moody and agitated. These are setting events.
Setting events that we often do not consider are related to the culture of the school. Schools that struggle with bullying, high rates of suspension or expulsion, or even high staff turnover may be settings that promote problematic behaviors. If this is the case, then schools should take a systematic approach in creating a school culture that is responsive to child and staff.
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Best Comment:
Well,
I guess it’s time for me to tell our school administration about my
son. I initially wanted to wait on this as I was trying to grasp what
ASD was, make sure he really has this and really understand it. I feel I
have the tools to do this now, two diagnoses from two professionals, a
neurologist and a psychologist and after the two incidents that happened
at school, I must say something.
First
incident: I received a call from the school that my son was doubled
over in pain in the office because he said his stomach hurt. I arrived
at the school to pick him up in the office. The secretary said that he
was in the bathroom (I told her to encourage him to go over the phone as
he has had this problem/ his 8 yrs of life) Well, I waited and waited
and waited...I told her he was taking too long. I then decided to knock
on the bathroom door. He was not there. I walked over to his classroom
and looked into the window and there he was! I went back into the office
and told them that he was in his classroom.
The
office called him back so I could assess the situation. He now felt
fine and wanted to stay at school. He loves school and could have easily
pretended he was sick or just come home but that is not how he is. The
office had no clue their student went m.i.a on him and if they had
looked him in the eye and told him to make sure he came back and check
on him after 3 min he would have been back. In his mind, he was ok and
went back or just forgot and had his mind on one idea.
Second
incident: My son was called into the office (he never gets called to
the office!) because he spelled out loud an inappropriate word at
school. The note said that he said the F word for which he does NOT know
nor ever heard. I was in shock, tears, you know it! They said he heard
this from a kid at camp over the summer. I asked him what he said. He
said "mom, I spelled Sucker" When he went to the office, the
administrator asked him to spell what he spelled out on the playground
and the admin said he spelled it with a F. My son told me that spelling
that with an F is NOT a word and does NOT make sense. I know in my heart
that the admin heard it wrong. An F and an F sound alike when said out
loud. What really bothered me was that the admin thought my son was
lying or changing his stories in the office.
When
he said to the admin, I did not spell that, I spelled sucker. the admin
said "you know what you spelled!" that is just wrong and then after
being questioned my son started to get confused and cry and told the
admin...uuhh I forget, which he does! It was not the admins fault. I
blame myself. They need to know my so does not lie. He is a truth
teller! I told my son that he has a detention for spelling sucker and
that is not a good word. I’m hurt and angry because now he has been
exposed to the F word because the admin. Thought that is what he said.
It’s so unfair! I did not bring up ASD etc when I was in the office
crying and trying to make sense of all this. I did not want to use that
as an excuse. I called for the impromptu meeting in the office, they did
not.
My
son is also going through testing for an auditory processing disorder
(on Wed) and other language issues. His speech is unclear at times,
slurs words (may have been why the admin thought he used an F) and had a
hard time expressing himself at times. The school does not know this.
The only teachers that know of his diagnosis are his current teacher,
teacher from last year and the music teacher. I will now be setting up
an appointment with the administration.
My
son told me that he did hear the word sucker from a kid at camp and
that the boy did not get into trouble for it but he somehow knew it was
bad. He said "Mom, it is a bad word to say and that is why I SPELLED
it!" From the mind of a child with ASD. Thank you, God that he did not
say the F word even though the guy in admin thought so. I know what he
said...they can believe what they want.
I
wrote a letter stating that for the record, my son did not spell what
they thought he spelled, but I stand by the school 100% and YES, he
should have a 20 min. detention for spelling the word SUCKER.I do not
allow that word in our home and as a matter of fact the word Stupid is a
bad word in our home. Stating the facts and supporting the school at
the same time, shows the school I’m not a crazy parent without a brain.
My
son attends a private school that we love! The admin who heard him
wrong, is an amazing individual. I respect him but I think his "hearing
aid" needed to be turned up that day! Ahhhh, I need to laugh.
Thanks for listening, my eyes are swollen! ( :
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